The first and most important thing to say is that everyone is a spiritual being - we are pure light beings experiencing and learning about what it is to be a human on the planet earth. As we are all spiritual beings, we are all psychic and we are all born psychic. There are no exceptions. It's just that some of us come into the world with more of an awareness of that than others. But anyone, and that means you with practice and focus, can develop their spiritual awareness and therefore their psychic abilities.
I always teach spiritual and psychic development together, because I believe they belong together. It is possible to be psychic and not spiritual, but impossible to be spiritual and not psychic because once you make that connection to your true spiritual identity you have access to unlimited energy and intelligence through the source of All That Is. It is important to develop spiritual awareness as you develop psychic awareness because otherwise our egos, the very human part of our identities with all its hurts and wounds, can misuse those psychic gifts for personal power and gain. This is turn has a karmic impact on your spirit and can cause a lot of struggle for you in the future, so I always teach the two together. I have done a lot of healing on a past life where I misused my spiritual gifts and I know it's been a long hard slog to get back to my current state of awareness, so I would not wish that on any of my students!
Unfortunately, there is still a tendency to think of psychics and spiritual people as being airy fairy with their heads in the clouds; all wispy and ineffectual. This couldn't be further from the truth for anyone who has developed effectively. If you develop spiritually and psychically at the same time then it is vital to be fully present and comfortable in your physical body, and to nurture a strong connection to the earth. This is called being grounded.
Being grounded means you can maximise the flow of life force energy in your body and optimise your physical health; you can conduct spiritual energy from the Source and manifest it as a physical reality here on earth to help people and the beautiful planet we live on. A grounded person can access the highest qualities of love, compassion and wisdom that exist in their spirit through its connection to Source and express those qualities to humanity and the earth through their human form. Wow! I always get incredibly enthusiastic when I think about what that means and how much impact it would have if the world were full of people doing exactly that!
The other essential of spiritual and psychic development is to learn to clear and still the mind. Because of that, some form of meditation is a must. There are many different methods of meditating and it doesn't really matter which one you use, but it is extremely difficult to listen to the quiet, peaceful voice of your spirit when your overactive mind is jabbering away constantly in both ears. In the modern era when we live at a super-fast pace and are bombarded all day with information from all directions, this is especially important. So even if you begin by simply sitting quietly for five minutes every morning breathing as slowly and deeply as you can, you'll notice the benefits.
It's all very exciting when you start to become aware that there's more to life than just the material world, but it can also be confusing and challenging to know where to start. I suggest you find a teacher you feel drawn to, go with your gut feelings and intuition, and perhaps try out a few of the psychic disciplines such as reading cards, mediumship, numerology or dowsing and see which method you find easiest to work with or generates most interest in you. We are all different and so your strengths and what works for you will not necessarily be the same as for your friend. It's one of the great spiritual lessons; there is no one like you and you should not be afraid of being different from others!
I recommend looking for a trustworthy teacher who can help you to develop your spiritual awareness and psychic ability in a safe and effective way using the essentials of grounding and meditation. Try out a number of psychic disciplines and spiritual approaches and find out which ones work best for you.
Semele Xerri is a spiritual healer, Reiki Master/Teacher and psychic intuitive. Based in Wales, she offers healing and readings, runs spiritual and self-development workshops and trains Tarot readers. She also provides email courses for spiritual development and Tarot reading, including a 12 week Spiritual Development Course which is also available on CD